Since attitude is a choice, you can CHOOSE to have a great ride with your horse every day. Here are three simple tips to make sure your attitude is right for horseback riding and for life.
1. Learn to see things in shades of gray.
Stop expecting perfection. Don’t look at training and competing your horse in black or white terms. Instead, learn to see things in “shades of gray”. The key to seeing shades of gray is to recognize when things are “a little bit better”.
For example, when you evaluate your daily horseback ride, ask yourself if:
Regarding your position:
1. Were your hands a little quieter?
2. Did you sit a bit straighter today?
3. Did you keep your eyes up for more of your ride than you did yesterday?
4. Were you able to use your legs, hands or seat a bit more independently? That is, when you used your legs, did your hands stay somewhat quieter than last week?
Regarding your riding:
1. Did you remember to use your legs before your hands more often?
2. Did you control your emotions a bit better so that you were more relaxed, patient, brave, or calm?
3. Did you stay slightly more focused throughout your ride?
4. Did you remember to breathe more often?
5. Did you reward your horse for every effort he made that was a bit closer to what you want as a finished product?
Regarding your horse:
1. Did he pick up the correct lead more often today?
2. Did he stay on the bit longer than he did last week?
3. Did you feel like you were having a better dialogue with your horse? That is, you were a bit clearer in what you were asking him to do, and he understood you better.
4. Did you start to teach your horse something new today?
5. Was he a little braver when faced with the scary tractor, a deer in the woods, or other horses passing too closely to him?
6. Did he go sideways a little more easily in your leg yields?
Regarding competition:
1. Did you ride into your corners better than you did last season?
2. Did you think throughout the majority of your ride?
3. Did your legs become less jelly-like?
4. Did you remember to smile more often than at the last show?
5. Were you able to objectively evaluate what went wrong and come up with a better plan for the next event?
Get the picture? Seeing things in shades of gray will keep you feeling optimistic any time you or your horse do anything that’s just a little bit better.
I think one of the best ways to keep track of your shades of gray is to keep a daily journal of your rides.
Ask yourself, “Have things been a little bit better, not only within each ride, but also from day to day?” Then if you feel like you or your horse are just treading water and not improving, you can look back over your journal and see where you were last week, last month, or even last year. Your journal will help you keep things in perspective.
For example, maybe you’re feeling frustrated because your horse doesn’t stay on the bit during every canter depart. But when you look back at your journal, you’ll see that two months ago, not only was he coming off the bit, but also he was racing off into the canter like he was possessed!
By looking in your journal and seeing your progress, your attitude stays positive. You won’t feel pressured that everything has to be perfect right now. Instead, you’re content with shades of gray. And you’ll find that all those “little bit betters” pretty quickly add up to a “whole lot better”.
2. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
To have a great ride every day, be “great-ful”. I mean grateful. Not only will gratitude insure that every day and every horseback ride is a great one, but also gratitude will actually attract more of the things you appreciate and value into your life. As simply as I can put it, when you start to get discouraged about riding your horse, remember these two little words: “Thank you”.
Be grateful that you get to develop a relationship with these beautiful animals. Be grateful that you get to spend time outdoors with your horse. Be grateful your horse is sound. Be grateful that you’re healthy enough to ride. Be grateful that you can make the time to ride. Be grateful that you have a terrific horseback riding teacher. Be grateful for beautiful trails. Be grateful for the awesome way your horse smells and the feel of his warm skin under your hand as you stroke his neck. Be grateful for an indoor arena. Be grateful for good rain gear because you don’t have an indoor arena.
3. Have a great ride every day by asking high-quality questions.
I learned from peak performance expert Anthony Robbins the importance of asking high-quality questions. When you ask low-quality questions, your brain searches for an answer and can only come up with low-quality answers.
Here are some low-quality questions: “Why does this always happen to me?” “Why am I so clumsy when I give the aids for lateral work?” “How come I always blank out and forget my test or course pattern in competition?”
The only kinds of answers your brain can come up with to questions like that are: “Because you don’t deserve good things.” “Because you’re a lousy, uncoordinated rider.” “Because you’re a mental midget.”
Notice that low-quality questions often start with the words “Why?” or “How come?” As soon as you hear those words come out of your mouth, stop mid-sentence! Then, ask a better question.
Better questions would be: “What do I need to change in order to create the results I want?” “What exercises do I need to practice to become better coordinated during lateral work?” “What’s the best way to memorize my test or pattern so if I momentarily blank out, I can quickly get back on track?”
So, when “manure happens” when you ride your horse, change your attitude and have a great day every day, by ASKING A BETTER QUESTION such as, “What’s good about this?” “What can I learn from this?” or “How can I use this?” Your answers will surely empower you.
Jane Savoie was the reserve rider for the US Olympic Dressage Team in 1992. She has coached at 3 Olympics in Atlanta, Sydney, and Athens. Jane has written 6 books on training and sports psychology. For more info, go to: http://www.janesavoie.com or http://www.dressagementor.com
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